Posted by Danette Rivera : Wednesday, Jan 15, 2014
I am the type of person that when things go sideways, I escape into myself. I shut off, hunker down, and swear up and down that I must fix it myself, by myself. It’s a characteristic I’ve had since I was a kid, and I don’t think it’s ever done me any good. Once while riding shotgun in a bumper car with my mother at an amusement park – I think I was five – my mom slammed into a car sending my face hard into the dashboard. My nose gushed with blood. Instead of crying or telling my mother, I silently looked out the car for the rest of the ride, repeatedly wiping the steady stream of blood with the sleeve of my jacket. When the ride was over, my mother saw my face and my jacket covered in blood, and wondered why I hadn’t told her. I’m still not sure why. I did that kind of stuff all the time as a kid and ultimately as an adult.
It has taken a sincere effort on my part to rely on others for support. It’s something I had to learn to become a good wife and a good mother -- and a good coach. How would they ever sincerely trust my unconditional offer of support if I could not take it myself?
I am the queen of lending support, offering help, providing a shoulder. It’s my strength. But leaning on others is a practice I still continue to develop with people outside of my immediate family. CrossFit Los Angeles creates a safe environment that has allowed me to open up. The more I allow it in, the more I progress as a person and as an athlete. I have learned -- finally -- that a network of support is powerful and healing.
Leaning on your community will make you better for it. Trusting the cheers and encouragement when you’re in the weeds can get you through a workout even – especially – when you’re last. Believing that your coach wants to hear your goals and triumphs will help you succeed in them. And allowing us to coax you back into the gym after a hiatus will help build the consistency that makes you better.
I know allowing this to happen is not always easy. Opening up and trusting support is as much a skill as anything else, but if you practice with small steps, imagine how this could help you make the gains or changes you’d like to see. And it’s all so much better and more fun with a community behind you. Believe me, I know this now.
Speaking of support, if you are doing the Whole Life Challenge, make sure you are utilizing the forums. I know the general forum can seem a bit overwhelming, but there is a forum specifically for team CrossFit Los Angeles. There is also a forum for the smaller teams you’ve created. Tell us your goals and intentions in the forums, and let us support you. Ask questions, big or small. Share recipes. Note your successes and concerns. If we can get a steady conversation from a variety of people, the more support we will generate, which will translate to better success with changing habits. It will also help us stick to the challenge to the very end.
Kenny supporting Machete at the Whole Life Challenge Prelims. Go Machete!
COMPETITION: Testing Week
3 Rounds for time:
30 DB squat cleans (50/35)
AND COMING THURSDAY
COMPETITION: Testing Week
50 Thrusters (45)
30 Pull Ups