Posted by Becca Borawski : Wednesday, Oct 24, 2012
Sometimes people think they're being encouraging, but they're not.
Yesterday a friend of mine was relaying an interaction he had with his sister. A month or so ago he told his sister all about paleo eating and also gave her the contact info for a gym he recommended. She called him yesterday to share that she lost nine pounds since starting to eat paleo. She went on to tell him that she had her first cheat yesterday and ate a single piece of pizza.
Since my friend knows the people at the gym he recommended, he knows his sister hasn't been there yet or even called to schedule an intro. In response to her sharing about her weight loss, he interrogated her on why she hadn't called the gym. He asked her if she thought exercising might be good for her. He said, "I was excited she was eating paleo, and then she told me she cheated."
Instead of being acknowledged for the adjustments she had made to her life, and for the accomplishment of losing nine pounds, the sister was instead given a list of things she had done "wrong." It reminded me of the saying from Voltaire, "Perfect is the enemy of good." In pursuit of perfection, the sister's good progress was ignored. And would you, personally, find encouragement in a negative reaction? Would you be encouraged to share with that person again or feel supported by him or her?
Think on your interactions with your family and friends. Who are you being with them? Are you being truly supportive or are you stuck on the negative? What about your interactions with yourself? Do you acknowledge the good things you do or are you a nagging brother to your own self?
Wednesday's Workout (CAP)
In 20 minutes:
Front Squat 5-5-5
- work up to three heavy sets
Three rounds for time of:
10 Squat Cleans (135/95)
20 Box Jumps (24/20)
...and coming Thursday (CAP)
1 minute rest